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Have you heard of the Flight or Fight response that is programmed into our subconscious? There is a third reflexive response that is often ignored, is the one that happens most often and is the most influential in your life. It’s the Freeze response or avoidance reflex. If you are like a lot of people who find change uncomfortable, or if someone in your life is afraid of having you make a change, the tendency is to freeze up or do nothing.

This is not bad, it just is. It has it's place but if it prevents you from moving forward then it is no longer useful.

If you watch small animals its obvious why Freezing is such a primary response. If you are a rabbit and a dog is chasing you the reflex is to run. However, if a dog is simply walking around an area that is near you, you are much better off freezing until the dog goes away. If you run, it will see you and you may be lunch. But how does this apply to success and prosperity? Simple, to gain prosperity and success you must continue to grow. No one attains success by staying the same and not taking risks.

The only way to succeed is to grow, try new things and stretch beyond your capabilities. Whether you're an artist, musician, business person or healer, you have to take risks in order to succeed. How you respond to taking risks is the critical factor in your actual ability to succeed.

In the education industry, we often see people who know they need to make a change and will initiate the process. However, part way into the process they run up against an issue that causes them to freeze or go into avoidance patterns. They stop communicating with us because they are frozen or avoiding taking the next step. We know that the reflexive response is to not call back or respond because they feel uncertain about what will happen.

We also know that by simply calling or emailing us they are taking a very important step in changing their life. Every time they face their fear and take a positive action, it changes the pattern and makes it easier to move forward when they encounter their next block. Changing this pattern may be the most important step of their life. It starts by asking yourself: What’s the worst that can happen? The answer is: Nothing!

There is no downside to this. Just make the call and watch how it changes your life for the better. We have helped a lot of people get beyond their resistance and go on to have a successful career that changed their life for the better. Sometimes it takes a few weeks and for other people it may take years. The people who have struggled with it for 5 or 10 years before they make a change always say the same thing: I wish I didn’t wait.

We all sympathize with this. In fact, I think almost everyone has had the same experience at least once in their life. The important part is: You are not alone. There are always people who are willing to help.

In our schools we have people that their whole job is to help people overcome their reflexive response to freezing. They persistently follow up with people because they know that breaking the pattern is the first step to improving the person's life.

How to apply this to your life:

Each time you see that you are freezing up and take the step to take an action anyway, no matter what it is, it reinforces a new pattern of moving forward. The more you repeat the new pattern the more reflexive it becomes. Once the new pattern is in place you will be amazed at how much better your life becomes.

I personally applaud your courage to face the fact that there is something you want to improve in your life. Taking steps to change your life is always significant. And I also know that everyone has their own process: Some people know what they want and just go for it and others struggle to be clear or to overcome obstacles to accomplishing their goals.

A lot of people hit blocks along the way and that’s why we are here. That is normal and I believe it’s actually desirable. What that tells me is that they are really thinking it through and that they want to be sure they will succeed before they begin. They are going to be a good student and they are going to be ready and committed to succeeding as long as they can overcome their reflexive Freeze or Avoidance pattern. And that’s why we are persistent about reaching them.

We like what we see and we want to be part of their success. This is why you also need to be persistent, both with yourself as well as with others you are trying to help make changes in their lives. However, no one can do it for them. Ultimately they (or you) have to take the next step. As with all things, there are windows of opportunity. Time waits for no one and when an opportunity passes, it may never come around again.

I hope this is helpful for everyone as you continue your journey to greater prosperity. The journey has no end since there are always more ways to make the world a better place. Thank you for the part you are playing in making this happen.


Kris Stecker,

President Spa Tech Institute

P.S. Time is of the essence. Success usually breeds more success so the sooner you get started, the more opportunities you will have. As always, your comments or stories about how you overcame resistance and moved forward are helpful for everyone. Thank you in advance for your contribution.

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